Picture this: youre in a rowboat anchored in the middle of a river. You watch as objects floating down the river passing you by. When it rains, you put up a tarp. When the current changes, you keep your paddle in the water so you dont tip over. When a log comes your way, you swing the boat around. Pulling up anchor and heading around the next bend in the river or going ashore requires more energy than you think you have. All your energy goes into managing stuck?

The Truth is, change IS going to happen. Change is a part of life. Staying stuck is NOT going to make change from happening. Here are nine attitudes that may be keeping you stuck.

1. You do not believe you deserve, or are entitled to something different or better than you have.

2. You have negative thoughts about yourself and in your ability to change. Making a change may be too embarrassing, too hard, or its always the wrong time.

3. Life is chaotic. In the past problem solving creates chaos. Making plans to change become elaborate raising your level of anxiety. When you feel overwhelmed with anxiety, you shut down.

4. You feel alone. You lack a support system to help you clarify a plan and to feel connected with others as change happens in your life.

5. You are a perfectionist. If you are unable to come up with the perfect plan, than no plan will work.

6. You make the same choices over and over without seeing results so you stop.

7. You lack a sense of identity within yourself. Your identity of yourself is in your relationships, the roles you have, your education and external conditions.

8. You feel guilty about how making a change in your life will affect others.

9. You are so proficient at managing stuck that any change takes you too far outside your comfort zone.

Do any of these nine attitudes sound familiar? The good news is that when you recognize youre stuck, you have already begun to get unstuck.