Relationship Tip 1

I've been blessed with working with thousands of couples over the last 25 years. Out of all those couples, it has been very very rare to see a situation where both people did not have their fingerprints on the mess.

In other words, in most cases, both partners have their fingerprints on the mess before them.

So the question becomes, even if right now you think your partner is the biggest jerk in the whole world, the question still becomes, what is my part in all this?

The value in that question is then you are able to change whatever contribution you are making.

And since you cannot change another person (and I bet many of you are exhausted from trying), changing your own contribution is all you can do anyway and is the most powerful thing you can do.

2) Relationship Tip 2

As I drove home from a trip recently, I listened to tapes from the Mark Victor Hansen Mega Book Marketing Seminar in LA. One of the things that Mark Victor Hansen (of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame) and his wife do each year on their anniversary is re-say their vows and get married all over again.

Not a bad idea for a great relationship.

Especially if you get a honeymoon each year.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com